Ending Self-Sabotage by Building Self-Esteem

Have you ever sabotaged yourself and you can’t figure out why?  

You want to get promoted, improve your health and your relationships, achieve a big goal, and somehow you get in your own way and wreck your best-laid plans. 

Self-sabotage was definitely a part of my story when I was drinking. 

  • I would be getting ready for a big opportunity at work – a business trip or presentation – and I’d drink the night before. The next day when I was on center stage I was hung over and just trying to make it through the event. 
  • I’d have a social gathering that I was looking forward to for months and drink and then not remember most of it. 
  • I’d want to talk to my husband about something that was really bothering me, and I’d drink and not be able to express myself and my needs rationally and coherently. 

The truth is that self-sabotage is the result of low self-esteem. 

We only allow into our lives what we feel and believe we deserve. 

Building self-esteem is a foundational piece of recovery work.

When you change your self-esteem, your deep, subconscious beliefs about what you think you deserve, you stop self-sabotage. 

You can improve your relationships, job, ability to achieve your dreams and goals, financial abundance, the love you attract and your health. 

If you don’t change those beliefs, regardless of how hard you work, you will sabotage your progress in achieving them, either consciously or unconsciously. 

My guest today is Arlina Allen. She’s a Certified Life and Recovery Coach and Host of the award winning recovery podcast, The ODAAT Chat Podcast.

Arlina helps busy professional women to get the clarity they need to get unstuck, and achieve their goals so that they can live the life of their dreams.

Arlina is also the creator of the Reinvent, a six week self-esteem course, where she works with women to get to the root of what’s holding them back and change their beliefs so that they can realize their dreams. 

In this episode Arlina dives into the framework of her self-esteem course, including the importance of creating the right support system, tools for long term change, and new self image and a vision for what’s possible in your future.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

  • The law of attraction
  • How to leverage this universal law to manifest your deepest desires
  • How to identify negative beliefs and a process to resolve them and let them go
  • Addressing the causes of fears and anxiety and how to create a compelling future self image 
  • The connection tour, a step-by-step process to create a strong support system
  • Daily activities to build self-esteem
  • The fundamentals of how to create healthy boundaries for inner peace and healthy relationships

Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/17

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode

The Free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking

Connect with Arlina Allen



Arlina’s Podcast: https://odaatchat.com/

ODAAT Chat Private Women’s Facebook Group


Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson


Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson)

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The Hello Someday Podcast helps busy and successful women build a life they love without alcohol. Host Casey McGuire Davidson, a certified life coach and creator of The Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking, brings together her experience of quitting drinking while navigating work and motherhood, along with the voices of experts in personal development, self-care, addiction and recovery and self-improvement. 

Whether you know you want to stop drinking and live an alcohol free life, are sober curious, or are in recovery this podcast is for you.

In each episode Casey will share the tried and true secrets of how to drink less and live more. 

Learn how to let go of alcohol as a coping mechanism, how to shift your mindset about sobriety and change your drinking habits, how to create healthy routines to cope with anxiety, people pleasing and perfectionism, the importance of self-care in early sobriety, and why you don’t need to be an alcoholic to live an alcohol free life. 

Be sure to grab the Free Sober Girl’s Guide To Quitting Drinking right here.

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