People Pleasing and Over Drinking

A lot of people pleasers turn to alcohol to fit in, blend in with the crowd or get out of their own heads.

These days I describe myself as a retired people pleaser (and an ex-drinker!) and the two really go hand in hand.

For years I hustled to make sure that everyone around me was happy, that I was liked and well thought of and lived in fear that I would drop a ball or wouldn’t measure up to what was expected of me (especially at work) 

And my reward for constantly trying to please everyone around me was… 

An overstuffed calendar

A constant feeling of unease that someone might be mad at me (or worse…disappointed!)

Feeling super anxious at any sign of conflict 

And the desire to check out at night with wine

If people pleasing makes you worry about what other people think of you, look towards others for approval, or feel like you need to please the people around you to be accepted and loved, it’s common to reach for a drink to ease that discomfort. 

Seeking approval from others can lead to constant underlying anxiety that the approval you’re working for can be taken away at any minute.

So let’s talk about how to stop being a people pleaser when you’re quitting drinking. 

Now you may recognize my guest today, Bex Weller. I had Bex on the podcast earlier to talk about why life after alcohol is awesome. And you can find that episode at www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/48.

Bex is back to talk about her new book Chameleon: Confessions of a Former People Pleaser. Her new book dives into the disease to please and the magic of finding our way back to ourselves. 

We dig into:

The connection between people pleasing, anxiety and over drinking

✅ What drives the need to be liked and avoid conflict 

✅ Why people pleasing can lead to unsatisfying relationships and resentments

✅ How to prioritize your own priorities and needs without feeling selfish

✅ Why it’s important to set boundaries instead of people pleasing in early sobriety

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    Bex’s previous episode, Sexy Sobriety with Bex Weller

    The Sober Girl’s Guide To Saying No. How to set boundaries when you’re quitting drinking.

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    More about Bex Weller

    Bex Weller  is a Health Coach & a Life Coach, an author and a Speaker out of Perth Australia and she’s the creator of Sexy Sobriety. Bex helps women from around the world to get their sparkle back and create a life they love. Creator of SexySobriety.com, she leads one-on-one and group coaching programs, hosts live events, and is the author of the best-selling memoir, A Happier Hour, and the long-awaited follow-up, Up All Day. 

    Bex writes about love, life, and the strength and potential of the human spirit. Her work has been featured by The Telstra Business Awards, The Australian, Fast Company, Sydney Morning Herald, The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Better Homes & Gardens USA, SBS Food, Good Health Magazine, Marie Claire Australia, and Elle Quebec. Learn more at BexWeller.com. 

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    The Hello Someday Podcast helps busy and successful women build a life they love without alcohol. Host Casey McGuire Davidson, a certified life coach and creator of The Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking, brings together her experience of quitting drinking while navigating work and motherhood, along with the voices of experts in personal development, self-care, addiction and recovery and self-improvement. 

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