What Happened In My Marriage When I Stopped Drinking

What Happened In My Marriage When I Stopped Drinking?

This podcast episode is Part 2 of a conversation with my husband about what happened in our marriage when I stopped drinking.

To listen to Part 1 of this conversation click here

Mike and I had been together for 18 years before I stopped drinking alcohol.

Those years of dating, marrying and becoming parents together were filled with many happy memories of wine tasting weekends, pub crawls, boozy dinner parties and drinking vacations.

Of course not all of the memories of me drinking were positive, and after I stopped drinking certain things in our marriage had to change and evolve while others stayed the same. 

In this episode Mike and I talk about our relationship, habits, rituals, parenting and connection to each other since I gave up alcohol and why he doesn’t mind that I’m not as wildly unpredictable as I used to be. 

We dive into the last five and a half years of our marriage since I stopped drinking: early sobriety, where we are now, and where we are going. 

And we talk about why it’s important to separate the sadness we might feel about aging and the fact that we no longer have the same relationship we did when we were 25 years old from feelings of sadness and mourning that came up when I quit drinking.  

In this episode, we dig into:

  • What happens in a marriage when one partner stops drinking and the other one doesn’t

  • What Mike wishes he’d known about early sobriety so he could have better support me
  • How we navigated early date nights, parties and vacations after I gave up alcohol
  • Why Mike didn’t miss his drinking buddy as much as I thought he would
  • What fears I had about telling people I wasn’t drinking that Mike didn’t understand
  • How to accept, support & evolve with your partner when they make a big life change
  • Relationship dynamics and what changes I made after I stopped drinking that made Mike nervous
  • The advice Mike would give to other husbands if their partner is trying to stop drinking 

I hope this conversation will eliminate some fears about what might happen in your marriage if you stop drinking and give you practical strategies to communicate with and understand your partner when giving up alcohol.

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Listen to Part 1 of my conversation with my husband about our marriage both when I was drinking and when I stopped drinking. 

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The Hello Someday Podcast helps busy and successful women build a life they love without alcohol. Host Casey McGuire Davidson, a certified life coach and creator of The Sober Girl’s Guide to Quitting Drinking, brings together her experience of quitting drinking while navigating work and motherhood, along with the voices of experts in personal development, self-care, addiction and recovery and self-improvement. 

Whether you know you want to stop drinking and live an alcohol free life, are sober curious, or are in recovery this podcast is for you.

In each episode Casey will share the tried and true secrets of how to drink less and live more. 

Learn how to let go of alcohol as a coping mechanism, how to shift your mindset about sobriety and change your drinking habits, how to create healthy routines to cope with anxiety, people pleasing and perfectionism, the importance of self-care in early sobriety, and why you don’t need to be an alcoholic to live an alcohol free life. 

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